A Way to Actually Make Your Goal Happen…Without the Guilt

Are you feeling guilty about your abandoned resolution?

At the beginning of the year, it’s difficult to resist making a resolution or at least picking some big goal to achieve in the coming months. We pick projects and then throw our bodies and souls into the effort with overflowing ambition. After a few days, our good intentions get pushed to the side of our path by work and chores and family demands and exhaustion.

But that doesn’t have to be the case.

First, abandon that guilt instead. You haven’t thrown away your promise. You’ve merely pushed back your due date. Walk into this process with your head held high.

Next, realize that just like any other project, you must build your stamina to make your goal happen. By throwing everything you have at it, you exhaust yourself in the first few moments of the year. You have to train your body, mind, and soul to get to these big goals. Remember what I said about stamina?

Now, look at your goal. The big one. The “WOW” goal. That one that you set when you were full of champagne and ambition. Write it down on a piece of paper and put it somewhere you can see it easily.

Take that goal apart. Pull it into pieces and write down every task and thing you need to make that goal happen. My favorite way to do this is in a mind map (remember the mind map? Pay no attention to whether or not you can do the things you need to do to get there. If it’s a step or a necessary item, put it in.


Once you’ve done this, look at that big map of tasks and things. What is necessary for you to get from where you are to where you want to be?

Identify your milestones. These are the smaller goals which you will need to achieve in order to get to your bigger goal. From these, pick the one you see needs to be completed first. That’s your first milestone.

Split that milestone goal into at least eight smaller steps. These are the tasks you’ll need to complete to make that goal happen.

We have eight weeks left in the first quarter of the year. Do one of those tasks each week, and you’ll have completed all the steps to achieve your first milestone.

And you’re on the way to making that big goal happen in a way that you can actually do in the way you can actually do it.

Goodbye, guilt!

If you want tips on building up the stamina to get to that “WOW” destination, grab a copy of my guide, “Tricking Yourself into a Creative Habit.” This handy guide will help you to create a habit that makes your goals happen!